Tips on dating a divorced dad
He broke off one relationship because her dream of a downtown condo didn't fit with his need for a yard and swing set."I think sometimes the women I dated didn't realize that single dads still have parenting obligations that, for me, came first," said Ruyter, now 36, who maintains the blog "Memoirs of a Single Dad" (memoirsofasingledad.com) and recently self-published the book "Memoirs of a Dating Dad."Changing landscape As fathers grow more engaged in child rearing, and courts more willing to grant them custody, single dads increasingly are dating with kids in tow — in heart if not in hand.If you ever noticed the heroes in most romantic comedies, they are always preoccupied with something quirky.
You can date freely and meet people, but just be careful about rushing into anything too soon.
As a single dad wading back into the dating pool, Daniel Ruyter was surprised how many women lost interest when he revealed, always in the first conversation, that he had a son."At first I took it personally," said the Orlando, Fla., information technology analyst, who was 32 when he divorced and got joint custody of his then 5-year-old son.
"I found it very arbitrary that before they got to know me, they had decided against me."But as Ruyter cycled through "close to 100" first dates and a few long-term girlfriends (a scheduling feat, considering half his week was devoted to his son), his romantic standards heightened in ways they may not have pre-fatherhood.
Finding a way to co-parent with your ex is crucial, especially when you finally feel ready to start dating to again.
Here are six tips to keep in mind now that you are dating as a single dad: 1. It’s never a good idea to jump right into a relationship again after just ending a long-term partnership.